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What to Keep in Mind Before a Meeting

By Soudfa's blog team

The waiting, the expectations, and the excitement of finally meeting the person that you have been talking to for weeks or even months. As fabulous as first meetings can be, one should be careful and put safety as the number one priority.

MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE

Be sure to meet in a neutral, public place, somewhere where there are many people where possible, or in a public space that does not allow for intimate conversation.

KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR BELONGINGS

Do not leave your personal belongings or drink unattended at any time. Keep an eye on your personal belongings and take them with you wherever you go.

A FRIEND TO CHECK UP ON YOU

Consider contacting a friend to back you up in the safety department. Let them know whenever you are going, where you are going and with who. You could also check in with them a few hours into the meeting to let her know you are okay.

USE YOUR OWN TRANSPORTATION

For your first meeting, arrange for your own transportation. Drive, take the bus or a taxi, walk or bike to your meeting. Do not count on her/him to take you back to where you live. If the meeting is far away, make sure to stay in a hotel rather than their place.

GIVE DETAILS CAREFULLY

Once you are face to face for the first time, do not feel obliged to tell your entire life story and all your personal details, family name, id number, home phone number, address and so on. That kind of information can be shared later on if relevant.

HAVE YOUR PHONE WITH YOU

Make sure to have your phone charged and working properly. Keep it with you and use it to update your friend during the meeting.

FEET ON THE GROUND

Be reasonable! DO not get ahead of yourself and get too caught up in fantasizing about the result of your relationship with a new person. Organize your first meeting around a simple coffee or a lunch that way if anything goes wrong or there is no spark between the two of you, you can always call it a day and put an end to it.

It is your right to feel secure and comfortable first. Listen to your heart and if something does not feel right, do not question it and politely and quickly leave! On the other hand if you feel relaxed and happy and everything seems good, by all means enjoy your time and look forward to a second encounter.