Deciding to get engaged
You feel ready to take your relationship to the next level and you are seriously considering sharing your life with that special someone, you have been talking to for a while. Such a decision does not depend on you only; you have to take your environment into consideration. The families, the traditions and the culture. These three factors hold such a big influence over the fate of your relationship. We will get into those different aspects in a later article. For now, let us focus on the personal stages of the decision making. The first and most important step comes from within. It’s your decision and you have to be sure about it, about your future partner and the love you hold for each other.
Being sure about your decision
Beyond family and cultural obstacles, the first thing to do is to make sure that you are ready for the relationship and that you are completely sure of your feelings. Do you want that person to be a part of your life? A direct and essential question that nobody can answer but you. You know your feelings better than anybody else. The answer is not based on logic or calculations, leave those for the next stages. It is a purely heart related question, does this person make you happy and do you see yourself being with them in the future. An honest answer is all you need.
Trusting the other person
Through the time that you have spent together, you are now capable of making a better judgment about that special someone. Nobody is perfect and as you realize that, you are aware of his or her qualities and flaws. At this stage, it’s best to be realistic and logical so make sure to check all the information they’ve provided and ask all the questions you need. The result should either be that you are totally convinced by that person, that you are proud of the prospect of being their better half and accept them as they are, or that you have so many doubts that you’re already thinking about ways to change them. It is never the right premise to enter a relationship if you want to change the other person. Should it be the second case, you have to take more time and consider your decision about getting engaged. Keep in mind that if you are not convinced of them yourself, how can you stand up and present them to the world?
Trusting your love
Online relationships are in the eyes of many people not really considered a real relationship but more of an online based game with all the unseriousness that comes with it. That attitude towards the world of online matchmaking is fading more and more and you should always keep in mind that your love is pure. You are not doing anything wrong or sinful. Your intentions has been sincere from the start and you just put technology to good use in order to realize them. You found somebody worthy of your efforts and now you want to have a life with them honestly and openly under Allah’s rules and mercy. You have every right to be proud of your love; embrace your decision and go ahead and show everybody how beautiful and pure it is.